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Post by QueenFoxy on Sept 21, 2019 6:58:32 GMT -6
I too, am so sorry your husband is in such a bad way. Diabetes is not a thing to play around with and to neglect. It will eventually, in the end, always win the battle when one has not fought back. It is really too bad your home is a two story structure. That was a major factor in my choice of a new home. I wanted everything on one floor. Stair lifts at your stage of the game almost seem a necessity. I wish you both well, Vicky, and like Rick, I hope you can get some help from social services. I miss you and will be glad when you are back with us on a regular basis. Take care, m'lady.
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Post by Catlady2710 on Sept 21, 2019 9:23:20 GMT -6
So sorry to hear about your husbands condition Vicky. Hopefully he will now take his diabetes seriously, albeit a little late in the game - but better late than never. I pray that the neuropathy treatment works well for him!
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Post by Vicky G on Sept 21, 2019 14:53:03 GMT -6
Thanks Rick, I was hoping to get back earlier but didn't manage it because I seem to fall asleep at the drop of a hat these days. I will come back tomorrow.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Sept 21, 2019 21:35:39 GMT -6
Bless your heart, Vicky. I understand, I know you are totally exhausted. I do hope you can get some good, uninterrupted rest....and soon. Take care, m'lady. You have to take good care of you too.
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Post by lostineternity99 on Sept 22, 2019 3:33:28 GMT -6
Do not worry, Vicky ... I know all to well how it is with intense care giving, we will be here when you can make it back
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Post by QueenFoxy on Sept 22, 2019 7:50:23 GMT -6
I know you know that well, Rick, as do I. We have both been there.
Yes, Vicky. We will be here waiting for you when you can get back. Do take care of yourself as well.  |
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Post by Catlady2710 on Sept 23, 2019 12:01:03 GMT -6
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Post by QueenFoxy on Sept 24, 2019 11:00:19 GMT -6
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BIG HUGS  Take care of you and yours friend. Know we're all here for you |
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Post by lostineternity99 on Sept 25, 2019 4:49:39 GMT -6
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Post by QueenFoxy on Sept 25, 2019 9:23:42 GMT -6
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Post by Vicky G on Sept 26, 2019 2:37:07 GMT -6
Thank you everyone for your very kind good wishes. I am hoping to see a light at the end of the tunnel by the end of this coming weekend. Last weekend was filled with family visits and my son doing odd jobs for me round the house (he is working at Folkestone for 40 weeks so we only see him at the weekends - it's next door to Dover and quite some way from where we are). This week the carer has started - she just comes in to bedbath Tony and change the bedding etc., and is here for less than one hour but at least it does help. Yesterday they came and fitted the chairlift which I find very useful and I'm hoping it will give Tony the confidence to move from upstairs to down. However he is not overly enthusiastic at the moment. Unfortunately this means I won't be able to go to my daughter's surprise birthday party on Friday night and I'm sad about that.
Today I am having all sorts of stuff delivered - just bits and pieces like a raised lavatory seat and some grab bars etc., but I am not sure what time they are coming and a physiotherapist is coming to see Tony later this morning and I am hoping she will impress upon him the need to keep moving. I'm afraid he's content to just lie there and watch tv at the moment which is doing him no good at all. Tomorrow I am expecting workers in to fit the grab rails and various other bits and pieces. So I am still busy but I am hoping to have a quiet word with the physiotherapist this morning and ask if it's okay to make Tony come downstairs for his meals. I think she will agree with that - at least I hope she does! I have also decided not to cancel my week in Wales in a couple of weeks time because my daughter is going to stay here while I'm away and I really do need that holiday. This is a big house to run single-handedly and look after an invalid at the same time and I do feel that the invalid could at least come downstairs for his meals and start getting back into the groove.
You may have guessed by now that nursing is not my forté. LOL
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Post by QueenFoxy on Sept 26, 2019 3:09:21 GMT -6
Vicky, I understand everything you are saying and I agree with you completely that if Tony is physically well enough and strong enough to come downstairs for meals, then he should do that. It is good for him and it is good for you. Both your needs must be considered. You are installing all those things to help him stay independent. He should use and be happy to retain his independence.
I would see no reason why you should have to call off your planned trip as long as your daughter is there to look after him. You know she loves him and can be trusted to take good care of him.
It's good to hear from you, Vicky. Take care, m'lady.
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Post by lostineternity99 on Sept 26, 2019 5:20:06 GMT -6
You are doing very well, Vicky! When all the equipment is set up things will hopefully be a little easier for you both.
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Post by Catlady2710 on Sept 29, 2019 9:22:08 GMT -6
Hi Vicky. I agree with Foxy 100%.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Sept 29, 2019 11:51:01 GMT -6
Hi Cat.
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Post by Vicky G on Sept 30, 2019 2:41:55 GMT -6
Thank you Foxy, Rick and Cat and although the weekend was a bit up and down I am grabbing more time to myself and I am back and glad to be so. |
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Post by lostineternity99 on Sept 30, 2019 6:08:52 GMT -6
So good to hear, Vicky |
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Post by QueenFoxy on Sept 30, 2019 9:16:35 GMT -6
Glad you're back, Vicky.  |
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Post by Vicky G on Oct 1, 2019 2:42:43 GMT -6
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Post by Catlady2710 on Oct 1, 2019 9:05:38 GMT -6
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Post by Brian on Oct 23, 2019 3:19:55 GMT -6
Vicky, I'm happy you had such a wonderful time in Scotland.
I am saddened by your news of your husband. My wife and I both are battling diabetes and a whole host of related and non related issues. Despite my best efforts I couldn't convince a doctor here to do the simple test until I was taken to ER with a dangerously high glucose count. I know first hand how damaging it can be when left untreated. I too have neuropathy. It started in my feet and is spreading to my hands. My wife has recently been hit by it too. We have the aid bars installed in the bath and are doing our best to look after each other and maintain some semblance of independence. It's a very hard road to be on.
I completely understand what you're both going through. Saying it's exhausting is an understatement. The depression that can manifest is sheer hell for the person experiencing it and those around them. Ditto for the anxiety that often goes along with it. We find it helps to do simple tai chi either sitting or standing or simple rehab walking exercises. It helps to have something to occupy the mind too.
I have found some great support articles for the depression and anxiety on FB in the group called The Mighty. People there share their experiences and no one is judgmental. It makes me feel that I'm not alone in the battles I face. It also helps people who don't understand it or want a better understanding achieve that goal.
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Post by Vicky G on Oct 24, 2019 2:59:27 GMT -6
Hi Foxy and everyone. I have sent a message to Foxy explaining the problems I am having at the moment and I am also recovering from a nasty bout of flu. Foxy you are welcome to pass my message on. I am missing you all dreadfully but I am not very well at present and suffering from a self-inflicted bout of depression too. Phoenix I wish we could both shake our depression as you and your wife seem to have done. This sounds really awful but I can't stop myself from thinking "is this all there is for the rest of our lives" which depresses me even more. My husband seems to cope better than me with his depression but something is not right there and we (the whole family) think he is in the early stages of Dementia as he is going the same way as his father did. That depresses me even more.
Anyway, I have missed all of you because I am excessively fond of you. So I am going to first kick this flu into touch and then try and stay up after Tony has gone to bed and spend a bit of time on here. Thank you so much for all your good wishes and kind thoughts. Going to Wales did give me a lift, Llandudno is a lovely resort and the weather was very kind - it's just unfortunate that on the day we came back (I went with my sister) I caught this awful flu bug.
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Post by lostineternity99 on Oct 24, 2019 4:38:30 GMT -6
Hi Vicky, I am sorry to hear about the health situation with your husband and your understandable depression and ... such bad luck to get the flu after returning from your fun trip to Wales. I hope there is improvement on all fronts soon (((healing hugs)))  |
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Take care of you and yours friend. Know we're all here for you
