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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 2, 2021 19:44:58 GMT -6
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 7, 2021 16:15:35 GMT -6
#6 Dear Anyone,My boyfriend and I have had a rough couple of months in the bedroom area of our relationship. He is never in the mood to have sex anymore. He says that he has lost his sex drive before and that he thinks it is caused by stress. I understand his troubles but this is very frustrating for me. I tell him all the time that I respect his issues but I really enjoy being intimate with him, it's not just sex. We live together and life is pretty stressful right now, but I don't think that those outside issues should change the way you feel about having sex with your girlfriend. It's very hard for me to deal with. I can't even just start making out with him without him getting mad. I plan on spending the rest of my life with this man, What am I to do? Needs Intimacy in Milwaukee ~
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jun 7, 2021 17:21:09 GMT -6
Have patience. Outside stresses, for example work stresses, can have an effect on sex. Perhaps you can get him to talk about what is stressing him without your ultimate goal being sex at the end of the talk. Sometimes a person justs needs someone to talk to person to person. Intimatcy can also be obtained without sex, both through compassion and understanding. Marriage is not just about sex. It is about giving and sharing your hopes and dreams, and helping each other to solve problems. Be a friend, care for his wellbeing, talk to him. But be patient and don't demand something he is not able to give at this time. Give him time and he will come to you when he is ready.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 7, 2021 18:42:43 GMT -6
#6
Very, very wise advice from Cat. There is far, far more to marriage, and intimacy than just sex. There is also a difference in having sex and making love. Patience, love and tenderness are required in the art of making love.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 9, 2021 22:45:39 GMT -6
#7 Dear Anyone,
I am in a love triangle and I don't know what to do, because I love this one guy. He is a marine and he is in North Carolina. I like this guy who is at my school and both of them like me and want to be with me. But I don't know whom to chose.
Dont know what to do
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jun 13, 2021 8:41:57 GMT -6
#7. Choose one. If you don't, you will most likely lose both.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 13, 2021 13:27:01 GMT -6
#7
You say you LOVE one, and you LIKE the other. When you really love someone, you feel you cannot live life without them. If good times, fun and excitement are so important that you have difficulty choosing, you should choose the one who is there for you, during those ever so important, final school years. There will be many occasions when a date/escort will be a necessity. To be a lonely teenager is not good.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 13, 2021 13:31:00 GMT -6
#8. Dear Anyone,
I need help getting over a guy I have been in love with for 11 months. We are friends but I want to be more than friends. At the same time I also want to get over him because I can't be in a friendship with someone I want to be in a relationship with. He understands but I am having troubles moving on from him. I want to get over him and I don't know how. Soooo....Dear Anyone, please let me know how to get over a guy and a broken heart? And any other advice you have for me and thanks!
InLoveButConfused
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Post by Kerri on Jul 3, 2021 23:46:17 GMT -6
#2 Dear Anyone,I've known this guy for about a year and a half now. We even used to live together- as friends. We have so much in common, even most of our friends have asked why we're not together. We do things together all the time. Dinner, movies, etc. We've even been sleeping together for a year now. A few weeks ago, he admitted he is falling in love with me, and a few days ago, I gathered enough courage to tell him I feel the same. The only bad part about this, is that his past relationships have turned out to be pure hell for him. He's been falsely put into prison many times because of girls, and they always end up breaking his heart. A few days ago, when we had 'the talk', he told me that even though he loves me, and I love him, he just wants to be friends. I have never felt this way about someone before. We connected instantly, and we both feel it. We're so passionate, and only have eyes for each other. I'm just.. sad, he's my missing half. Hopelessly in Love ~ I would break off the relationship and move on. He clearly wants to stay in the friends with sexual benefits department. What I find curious about this is that he has been falsely put into prison many times because of girls. How is someone falsely put into prison over and over again because of women? |
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Post by Kerri on Jul 4, 2021 0:13:00 GMT -6
#4 Dear Anyone,I have a daughter that is 1 1/2 year old. I had her when I was 17 years old with my middle school and high school sweetheart. We were together for about 6 years on and off. We have been broken up for about 6 months and he has had a girlfriend now for 3 months. I still love him and have not been able to move on. He tells me he still loves me but likes that girl and wants to see if she is the one. How can I get my family back? I love him so much and want our family to be happy again. depressed and heart broken ~ I would gently tell her to move forward. She already experienced the 6 years on and off with him. The off times give a hint that something is not working. High school sweethearts sometimes go the distance but many times they don't. She needs to move on. She should not wait around while he is having a passionate infatuation with his new woman. |
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Post by Kerri on Jul 4, 2021 0:30:11 GMT -6
#7 Dear Anyone,I am in a love triangle and I don't know what to do, because I love this one guy. He is a marine and he is in North Carolina. I like this guy who is at my school and both of them like me and want to be with me. But I don't know whom to chose. Dont know what to do Well, she is young as she is still in school. My harsh advice would be to break it off with the marine who is in another state. Spend time with the boy at school and get to know him. She will want to spend time with the boy who is near her anyway. But I think I would have to have a talk with her and get a little more information before I told her what I thought.  |
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Post by Kerri on Jul 4, 2021 0:41:19 GMT -6
#8. Dear Anyone,I need help getting over a guy I have been in love with for 11 months. We are friends but I want to be more than friends. At the same time I also want to get over him because I can't be in a friendship with someone I want to be in a relationship with. He understands but I am having troubles moving on from him. I want to get over him and I don't know how. Soooo....Dear Anyone, please let me know how to get over a guy and a broken heart? And any other advice you have for me and thanks! It is one of the most difficult things. When we care for someone and it doesn't work out the way we had hoped. Unfortunately, it may be too difficult for her to be friends with him until she finds someone else to focus her affections on. They may have to not be friends for now. |
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jul 4, 2021 13:46:04 GMT -6
#2. I so agree, Kerri. If he went to jail, it is because he did something to the girls that was harmful and against the law.
#4. So true, Kerri.
#7. She is far too young to know how to handle a long distance relationship. She needs to be free to enjoy her youth.
#8. If he doesn't want a romantic relationship, it can never happen. It takes two to tango, and if being friends is not possible for her, then she has no choice but to end the friendship.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jul 4, 2021 14:12:42 GMT -6
#9. Dear Anyone
Dear Anyone,
I am seeing two guys, one who is a very close friend, with all the benefits, and one who is sweet and innocent. The sweet one thinks I am being faithful, and the Friend With Benefits knows all. I really enjoy being with the FWB, we connect so well, but I will never marry him. The sweet one, I feel like I can't be myself around (I am not very innocent and sweet), but I can see myself marrying him (he would be the perfect husband). What should I do?
Caught between two opposites
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jul 4, 2021 14:19:34 GMT -6
The sweet one, you need to cut loose and set him free. He deserves someone as honorable as he seems to be. If you can't be yourself around him, then he is not for you. Your husband has to be the person who knows you better than any other human being on earth. You must be totally open and honest with anyone you have chosen as your life partner. Perhaps that person is your friend with benefits.
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Post by Kerri on Jul 5, 2021 9:28:19 GMT -6
I agree, Foxy.
She will never be satisfied with the sweet one.
Let him go so he can find someone suited to his ways.
She doesn't have to marry anyone.
Carry on with friends with benefits until she meets
a man who she can be herself around, have a wild time in the bedroom,
and she still thinks the man would make a good lifetime partner for her.
I can't even imagine living with someone
and not being able to be myself.
I feel as if she would end up cheating on the sweet guy in the end.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jul 7, 2021 17:30:40 GMT -6
Yes!! I think that sweet guy deserves a lot better than she portrays herself to be.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jul 7, 2021 17:38:00 GMT -6
#10 Dear Anyone
Dear Anyone,
I like this guy a lot. When we first met it was at a non profit where I was an intern. He is eight years older than me. I fell for his soft heart. At the time he had a girlfriend who was homeless which I found odd. She was also my age he broke up with her, we had sex when they were dating. I know its a bad thing to do but I liked him so much. At the time I was also in bad relationship. I left that to be with him but he no longer wanted to be with me. I did not give up I hung out with him all the time and we found our way back to each other. Its been months and I fell like I don't know why he wont date me. He says he only wants to be my friend but we have sex all the time and cuddle and make out. Is it time to give up will he always just want to be my friend or should I wait another six months and see if it is only for the sex?
Hopelessly Confused
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jul 8, 2021 12:36:07 GMT -6
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jul 8, 2021 12:39:18 GMT -6
#10. Time to get that man out of your system because he is only using you, nevermind waiting another six months. You would only be wasting your time. He has made it quite clear to you that the only thing he is interested in is the sex. He has no intention of entering a more serious relationship with you.
Stop punishing yourself with false hopes and move on.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jul 8, 2021 14:52:27 GMT -6
#10
I so thoroughly agree with every word of your assessment, Cat. He is using her.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jul 8, 2021 14:57:35 GMT -6
#11 Dear Anyone
Dear Anyone,
There is this guy I would like, whom I have hooked up with twice, the first time a month ago and the second a week ago. The second time we got a little bit more intimate than kissing and stuff but ever since then I have not heard from him much. I live in Birmingham (UK) and he lives in London. He hasn't text me (which is our normal means of communication) and I know this may sound stupid but he doesn't even put "x" s in his texts anymore. It has been about 3 days since he text me last and I am afraid that he doesn't like me anymore. I feel that I am falling for him and I don't know what to do. I am confused about how he feels for me and need to know! Please help me!
Extremely confused
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jul 9, 2021 8:57:31 GMT -6
There are two scenarios here. In the first scenario, it could be he himself is a little confused and is taking time out to access his feelings toward you before going any further. The second scenario is that while your encounters were nice for him, he just isn't in it for the long run, and so decided that you are a thing of the past.
It has only been a month. Wait a little to see what happens. Don't send any pestering messages to him as this may make you look desperate and just may turn him off, or even encourage him just to use you. In the meantime, go on with your life and if you never hear from him again, then so be it.
However, if the first scenario is true, after not hearing from you for a few weeks, it could turn his thoughts even more towards you - absence make the heart grow fonder - and he will contact you when he is ready to get to know you better in order to start up a relationship.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jul 9, 2021 11:49:52 GMT -6
#11
Well, I'm more than a little modest and perhaps a bit old fashioned, but you seem to say you went all the way on your second "hook up." There's a lot of guys who want to "hook up" with girls like that, but there are certainly some who don't want to take them home to Mom. Dad, and family. You might just need to cool your jets and take things a bit more slowly when you meet a guy that you feel is special.
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jul 9, 2021 14:07:02 GMT -6
Umm Foxy. I never read that as going all the way. It sounded to me more like letting him feel her up. But if she did, she needs to slow down, like you said.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jul 9, 2021 16:18:45 GMT -6
#12 Dear Anyone
Dear Anyone,
My girlfriend has a 33 year old son, not mine, who has been basically unemployed in the 14 years we have been together in a relationship. In the fourteen years, he has been married, divorced, and has 4 children.
He has lived with us off and on until I just couldn't take it anymore. He has never paid rent or brought groceries, soap, toilet paper, or anything else in all the times he stayed in our house. He has used abusive language towards me. My problem is that every time he visits, it's mostly unannounced, and because I don't get excited when he shows up, me and my girlfriend eventually wind up in some kind of argument. I think that even though it may not be about him, it's in some way because of him. By the way, I am a woman also.
At my wits end!
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See you all more tomorrow. Happy Friday/weekend everyone