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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 2, 2021 19:44:58 GMT -6
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 2, 2021 19:48:02 GMT -6
#1 Dear Anyone,
I've been with my husband for 5 yrs. We fight all the time. I've been wanting to leave him for a while now and a few days ago I packed my things to leave, but he put a knife to his throat and told me if I leave, he would kill himself. So I stayed back. I am not in love with him anymore and haven't been for a long time. I am however in love with someone else. I've been in love with this guy for over 10 yrs and a few months ago I found out that he felt the same way then and now. I want to be with him, but don't want my son's dad to do anything crazy. What should I do?
Between a Rock and a Hard Place
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 2, 2021 19:58:04 GMT -6
I think if he would use such a tactic to hold you, he needs help, and for his sake, as well as your son's, you have an obligation to see that he is safe. First, you should call the police, and tell them of his strange behavior and threats. Then take your son, and leave. There is no need to stay with someone you don’t love, and who might even hurt you. Then work on making a new life for you and your son. ~ |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2021 5:42:39 GMT -6
Not able to give any kind of advice on this one. I gave myself the AIDS virus in a MICA program in a psychiatric hospital and took a overdosed of sleeping pills in this Easter Seals program over my first wife. If it was not for my housemates finding me pass out in my own puke and calling the ambulance , I would have probably bitten the dust.
Sorry, can't offer any help here.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 3, 2021 10:01:24 GMT -6
Sorry for your experience in this area, Rich. This is just a trial run in trying to find something of interest to replace Quizzes. They may come back, but at this moment, I am doubting it. Have to try and find something new.
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jun 3, 2021 10:05:21 GMT -6
My abusive ex used to threaten me with killing himself all the time. I learned in time that this was only a matter of control and he had no intention of killing himself. It was just a tactic to control me. This smells like the same deal. But yes, call the cops, because when he sees his threats of killing himself aren't working anymore, he might turn to threats of killing you and if that doesn't work, maybe even threaten harm to your child. You need the cops to be aware of the situation. I am sure they have had experience of different types of this scenario many times. But whatever you do, don't stay with him, not only for yourself, but for the sake of your child. You don't want your child expose to such behaviour. The longer the child is exposed, the more psychological, if not physical, damage may be done to the child. You need to get away for both you and your child.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 3, 2021 10:10:31 GMT -6
#2 Dear Anyone,I've known this guy for about a year and a half now. We even used to live together- as friends. We have so much in common, even most of our friends have asked why we're not together. We do things together all the time. Dinner, movies, etc. We've even been sleeping together for a year now. A few weeks ago, he admitted he is falling in love with me, and a few days ago, I gathered enough courage to tell him I feel the same. The only bad part about this, is that his past relationships have turned out to be pure hell for him. He's been falsely put into prison many times because of girls, and they always end up breaking his heart. A few days ago, when we had 'the talk', he told me that even though he loves me, and I love him, he just wants to be friends. I have never felt this way about someone before. We connected instantly, and we both feel it. We're so passionate, and only have eyes for each other. I'm just.. sad, he's my missing half. Hopelessly in Love ~
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jun 3, 2021 10:18:28 GMT -6
It is my opinion that if he feels that way, you should cut ties all the way. You don't need the pain of remaining friends if he is not willing to commit to a relationship. Then, after time away from you with no contact, if he finds that he is willing to commit to a relationship, then go from there. But it must be him who decides. Don't put up with a half-way relationship as it would only cause you pain.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 3, 2021 10:29:24 GMT -6
I agree with Cat 100%. You could spend a lifetime with this man and have absolutely zero rights to anything you have worked for and accumulated together through the years. You would not even have the right to plan his funeral. Take Cat's advice and move out. If he loves you enough, He will ask you to marry him. If not, move on. Find a man who loves you enough to want what is best for you.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2021 10:48:46 GMT -6
Hi Foxy and Cat, all good sound advice. I can agree with that anyway. If the relationship is bad, get away quickly.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 3, 2021 18:54:37 GMT -6
#3 Dear Anyone,
I was seeing a man for a while and broke up with him because he is controlling and always wanting to change me. He lives in the apartment below me and refuses to understand that I am no longer his girlfriend. He tries to pressure me into having sexual relations with him and when I say no, he says he has the right and will take what he wants when he wants and that he is just showing me how much he loves me. He cries all the time over me and tells me how great I am, but then one minute later is criticizing me.
No should mean no
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jun 4, 2021 8:56:00 GMT -6
Time to call the cops. That's sexual harassment. Wouldn't hurt to move if you can too.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 4, 2021 11:22:09 GMT -6
He is a loser for sure, and he is threatening you with physical violence. Rape is a violent crime. Make a report on this to the police. They need to be aware of what is going on with him. If something should happen to you, they will have a suspect.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 4, 2021 11:25:53 GMT -6
Tell me what you think of this Topic. Do you find it interesting?
Or....Should I look for something else? |
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 4, 2021 11:45:26 GMT -6
#4 Dear Anyone,I have a daughter that is 1 1/2 year old. I had her when I was 17 years old with my middle school and high school sweetheart. We were together for about 6 years on and off. We have been broken up for about 6 months and he has had a girlfriend now for 3 months. I still love him and have not been able to move on. He tells me he still loves me but likes that girl and wants to see if she is the one. How can I get my family back? I love him so much and want our family to be happy again. depressed and heart broken ~
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2021 12:36:29 GMT -6
#3 Dear Anyone, I was seeing a man for a while and broke up with him because he is controlling and always wanting to change me. He lives in the apartment below me and refuses to understand that I am no longer his girlfriend. He tries to pressure me into having sexual relations with him and when I say no, he says he has the right and will take what he wants when he wants and that he is just showing me how much he loves me. He cries all the time over me and tells me how great I am, but then one minute later is criticizing me. No should mean no I would take Cat's advice and try to move to another place. Sometimes calling the police and getting a restraining order is not enough (but has to be done) I would fear for her life with this guy. I guess I watch to many crime shows. Tell me what you think of this Topic. Do you find it interesting?
Or....Should I look for something else? It is a good topic Foxy, I like reading it. |
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 4, 2021 13:01:21 GMT -6
Thanks for giving me your opinion, Rich. I appreciate it. I find it interesting as well. I agree with you and Cat on #3.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2021 13:06:13 GMT -6
You're welcome Foxy
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jun 4, 2021 13:08:58 GMT -6
#4. Sounds like the guy doesn't want to commit to her as he is trying to see where his new relationship is going. Could be he is just keeping her hanging on in case this new relationship doesn't work. All in all, it is my opinion that he does not intend to have a lasting relationship with her, but just to have her as a stop gap as he explores new relationships until he finds the one he does want.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 4, 2021 13:41:34 GMT -6
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That's exactly how I see it, Cat. She needs to find a good sitter, like her Mom, to take care of her child now and then, and go out somewhere where she is exposed to other young people. She can't let him think she will always sit at home and wait for him to come back. If that is how she starts her life, that is what her life will always be. She may get lucky and find some nice guy that will make her forget her baby's father. She should make it clear she does not intend to sit home and wait for him.
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jun 4, 2021 15:53:33 GMT -6
Exactly.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 5, 2021 2:04:46 GMT -6
#5 Dear Anyone,
A while ago I saw this guy who was working at out local supermarket. He was so cute and I immediately fell for him. One day, as I was standing at the register he started talking to me. Well to make a long story short, after our one talk I kinda chickened out and thought stuff like 'I'm not pretty enough' or 'he wouldn't go out with me anyway' Truth is though that several times after I went to the supermarket he kept on looking at me but every time our eyes crossed I quickly looked away. Meanwhile I found out that he doesn't work at the supermarket anymore and I'm sad. As I was driving through the neighborhood the other day I saw his car and where he lives. I just don't know what to do now. I mean I would just ring his doorbell and be honest, but that might be really weird! What should I do?
PinkLady
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 5, 2021 2:20:46 GMT -6
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When you say you were driving through the neighborhood, do you mean your own neighborhood? ....Or....were you driving around looking for his car and house? If it is really in your own neighborhood, you could do your walking/jogging exercise on his street, or walk your dog, if you have one, and hope you run into him sometime.
Just remember this one thing. Seeing his car there does not mean that he lives there. And if he does, he may not be living there alone.
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Post by Catlady2710 on Jun 5, 2021 8:44:33 GMT -6
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I agree with Foxy - a walk through the neighbourhood would be a good idea. Too bad enough courage wasn't worked up in the first place. Never under-rate yourself. If you see a chance at a good relationship, you should go for it. If it doesn't work out, at least you tried.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 5, 2021 11:15:06 GMT -6
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So true, Cat, and if she didn't have the courage to even allow their eyes to meet in a public place, I don't think she would have the courage to go up cold and knock on a strange door in an effort to see him again. I think she is painfully shy, and a chance meeting is the only way.
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See you all more tomorrow. Happy Friday/weekend everyone 
See you all more tomorrow. Happy Friday/weekend everyone