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Post by QueenFoxy on May 6, 2019 11:38:54 GMT -6
How They Rejected Marriage Proposals And Why They Did It ~With spring pouring blossoms and warmth on us more and more with each coming day, it's not surprising that many lovers could be found sitting at parks, watching birds building their nests. Love is in the air and as cliche as the saying sounds, it does bear some truth to it. New couples show up like mushrooms after a good rain while old ones are reminded of their love once more. And although young love is perhaps the sweetest, many people believe that true love can only be secured with a marriage proposal. While some might argue about that prospect, others share their firsthand experiences with proposals.
I recently asked people who declined a proposal why they did that. And within the next 24 hours, replies flowed non-stop. From simply sad to somewhat bizarre, people shared many stories where a marriage proposal was the main focus. This looks interesting.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 30, 2019 6:20:02 GMT -6
She sure made the right choice.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 30, 2019 6:41:43 GMT -6
#24
Got asked in college by a close female friend. We weren't dating, I hadn't ever felt an attraction to her, and I knew she just wanted a husband more than she wanted me, the actual person. 100% yikes. ~
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 31, 2019 5:26:05 GMT -6
A very strange proposal this was  |
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 31, 2019 6:49:35 GMT -6
Yep! That one sends sends up a bunch of red flags.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 31, 2019 6:52:20 GMT -6
#25
I was fresh out of high school and dating a guy in the military that I went to school with. We had been dating about three months when he proposed. He was nice, and I could have seen a future with him but three months was just too soon for me, even though we had been friends for quite some time. I told him I wasn't ready and he never spoke to me again. ~
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Post by Vicky G on May 31, 2019 9:23:09 GMT -6
Sad but she did the right thing.
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Post by lostineternity99 on Jun 1, 2019 5:45:36 GMT -6
She definitely did the right thing!
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 1, 2019 7:10:01 GMT -6
#26
I thought my ex had anger management issues, and I didn’t get along with his mother. He was too attached to her. He later became a violent alcoholic—years after we broke up. He also stole quite a bit of money from me to give to his mother for bills... I was not aware of this until months after the fact. I feel like I dodged a huge bullet there.
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Post by Vicky G on Jun 2, 2019 3:12:41 GMT -6
That comes under the heading of a very lucky escape. Oddly enough in my very innocent days (and yes I was back then) I had a boyfriend he seemed very nice but he was a mummy's boy and she didn't like him mixing with me. However it wasn't strictly a romance because he played the clarinet and I played the piano and he used to come over and we'd practise together. I think the nearest we ever got to romance was him holding my hand but when we came close to his home he would let my hand go. LOL
Needless to say it never really took off and I met someone else and eventually got married. Mainly due to his mother he never did. Many years later I saw his picture in the paper. He'd been a teacher and was arrested for inviting young girls back to his home (his mother had died by then) and taking photographs of them in the nude! Of course the police found plenty of evidence and he was sentenced to prison and his name put on the sexual offenders register. Apparently he never actually sexually molested them but taking the photos was bad enough.
He came out of prison and unfortunately became friendly with my sister's elderly neighbour. As soon as he realised who my sister was he bombarded her with letters for me. He sent me a Christmas card every year and kept asking for my mobile number. I didn't dare contact him because I knew he would be a nuisance so my sister told him that I had no mobile phone and that she couldn't give him my home number because my husband was terribly jealous. LOL
My sister told me that he died just before Christmas last year, apparently he had pancreatic cancer. I know what he did was terrible but I can't help remembering how very respectful he was of me in our younger years and I also wonder how much his mother was to blame because according to his neighbours he never had another girlfriend and the only reason he was "allowed" to see me was because of us practising our music together.
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Post by lostineternity99 on Jun 2, 2019 5:26:14 GMT -6
Yes she was lucky to leave him but should have done so sooner, Foxy.
Wow, Vicky ... having such a controlling mother sure messed him up for life.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 2, 2019 10:23:50 GMT -6
I think any girl or woman should beware of any man with such deep attachments to their Mom. To be so attached as to allow her to prevent a normal male/female relationship is not normal. A normal male can still respect his Mom and not allow her to intrude that deeply into his personal life. That is not a normal life for either of them .
And yes, Vicky, that is too much power for a mother to have over her adult son.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 2, 2019 10:30:15 GMT -6
#27
I was scared and "selfish".
As a veteran, they were suffering from severe PTSD, had already attempted suicide, and were using drugs to self medicate. As much as I loved and adored him (and still do), I knew there were things I wanted for myself and it wouldn't be possible if I had to be the caretaker all the time. If I had said yes, I would be a widow now.
I know I did the right thing for me but I don't feel like I did right by them. I wish I could have been stronger. ~
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Post by Vicky G on Jun 3, 2019 4:32:14 GMT -6
That is so sad. I can fully understand her reasons though.
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Post by lostineternity99 on Jun 3, 2019 5:40:23 GMT -6
Yes, very sad and even more so the government does not take care of returning military veterans.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 3, 2019 7:05:12 GMT -6
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He was pissed as a newt and we had only been dating a year. 10 years later he did it properly. We’ve been married 6 years. ~ |
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Post by Kerri on Jun 3, 2019 16:25:59 GMT -6
Oh my goodness. Some scary near misses!
My father married again after my parents divorced.
Years ago, my father's second/current wife told me that
her first husband's mother had a key to their first apartment.
They would wake up and his mother would be making breakfast for them
in their kitchen.
I was very young, but even then, understood
that people need healthy boundaries with others
to have a healthy relationship with their partner.
Needless to say, her first marriage didn't last very long.
She is still married to my father and has been since I was a teenager.
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Post by lostineternity99 on Jun 4, 2019 6:36:47 GMT -6
A much better second proposal, Foxy and ... it is good to know her second marriage is so long and successful Kerri.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 4, 2019 17:44:08 GMT -6
#29
When he asked, my future flashed in front of me and I hated it. He was a good guy and I did love him, but we wanted different things. We had been together for many years but the proposal was still a surprise. I think he proposed to try and save a sinking relationship. ~
I so agree with you, Kerri.
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Post by lostineternity99 on Jun 5, 2019 5:11:05 GMT -6
She too was smart to not accept.
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 5, 2019 11:31:13 GMT -6
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I was getting ready to move to Japan. We weren’t even dating and I had been upfront that I only thought of him as a friend. He spent our junior and senior years of university trashing me because that’s the mature thing to do when people are honest, right?
Out of the blue, he texts me a proposal. Says I need a strong man to protect me (so much lol- 1. It’s Japan 2. He was your standard neckbeard).
I just texted back a simple “no” and didn’t hear from him again for years.
I come to hometown for my sister’s wedding. He texts out of the blue asking if I need a date. I had a boyfriend at the time. “Sorry, no.”
I get married a few years later. He starts whining about never getting a girlfriend and getting sympathy. I want to believe it was a coincidence, but he raged about stupid bitches when I got pregnant. So, who knows? ~
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Post by QueenFoxy on Jun 5, 2019 11:40:07 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2019 1:20:19 GMT -6
#30..Wow!
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Post by lostineternity99 on Jun 6, 2019 5:48:46 GMT -6
Cool topic: you ended with perhaps the biggest jerk of all ... LOL
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Post by Vicky G on Jun 10, 2019 5:46:54 GMT -6
Yes, he was a Grade A jerk and I am so glad some poor woman has been spared a lifetime of his misery!
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