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Post by QueenFoxy on May 6, 2019 11:38:54 GMT -6
How They Rejected Marriage Proposals And Why They Did It ~With spring pouring blossoms and warmth on us more and more with each coming day, it's not surprising that many lovers could be found sitting at parks, watching birds building their nests. Love is in the air and as cliche as the saying sounds, it does bear some truth to it. New couples show up like mushrooms after a good rain while old ones are reminded of their love once more. And although young love is perhaps the sweetest, many people believe that true love can only be secured with a marriage proposal. While some might argue about that prospect, others share their firsthand experiences with proposals.
I recently asked people who declined a proposal why they did that. And within the next 24 hours, replies flowed non-stop. From simply sad to somewhat bizarre, people shared many stories where a marriage proposal was the main focus. This looks interesting.
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Post by Vicky G on May 22, 2019 4:27:03 GMT -6
LOL - He'd obviously been on the whacky baccy.
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 22, 2019 5:35:18 GMT -6
Strange! LOL
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 22, 2019 7:00:18 GMT -6
#17
He asked me, on condition that I changed myself into something that he wants, so he can fulfill his dreams. All this while ignoring all my dreams. So... I chose to go forward alone.
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Post by Vicky G on May 23, 2019 4:16:31 GMT -6
Good for her, it's usually the other way around though. A lot of women think they can change men but they rarely can.
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 23, 2019 5:22:33 GMT -6
Yes, good for her.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 23, 2019 10:09:31 GMT -6
Good for her, it's usually the other way around though. A lot of women think they can change men but they rarely can. It's kind of a well known fact that the only time a woman can change a man is while he is still in diapers. |
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 23, 2019 10:11:30 GMT -6
#18
He told me he wouldn't say that he loved me until we were married. Big red commitment flag.
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 24, 2019 5:12:13 GMT -6
So true!
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 24, 2019 9:24:55 GMT -6
#8
He was that weird stoner patron that came in just to talk to me even though I wasn’t interested. He told me he was the heir to the commonwealth and should be king after Elizabeth dies, because he had the 3 out of the emblems of the United Kingdom, and once he got the 4th it would secure his position. He would also make airplane noises when I had my attention turned to other tasks. That’s a no Jason. ~
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 25, 2019 5:35:26 GMT -6
Ha ha, smart girl.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 25, 2019 8:06:47 GMT -6
OH Yes! Very smart.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 25, 2019 8:14:19 GMT -6
#19
I was 29 and had been with my boyfriend four years when he "proposed." I put scare quotes around it because he didn't actually say anything - he just got down on a knee and showed me a ring. Every time we had talked about marriage, I told him I wasn't ready. Our relationship was solid, but I felt sort of listless in it and like we never really fully connected, or had real talks of any depth. I always felt like it was me talking and him listening but not giving much back. We never ever fought. The proposal felt like a microcosm of that dynamic: instead of having a real talk about what he wanted, which would have been hard, he just bought a ring (a diamond, btw, which I told him I didn't want but he didn't believe me) to try to sidestep dealing with any difficult feelings or conflicts.
We stayed together after that, though - I felt so confused, he seemed so devoted, I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. A year and a half later, I found out he had been pursuing other women through much of our relationship, including my best friend, who he was infatuated with (she did not realize), and was having an emotional affair with a woman at his work. He acted like a complete crazy person after this all came to light, and all the resentments he had secretly buried came up (culminating in a letter to my parents where he essentially blamed me for his cheating, based on offenses like my doing my laundry separate from his and not accepting his money/liking to keep our finances separate). I felt validated about the vague unease I had had for so many years and was glad I listened to that intuition that there was something not right, though I wish I had sooner.
About a month later, I met my now-husband, and we married a year and a half later - I never hesitated with his proposal, even though it was only a few months in. It's been three years now and I am so happy with him - we're expecting our first child in November! ~
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 26, 2019 5:03:18 GMT -6
Good, a happy ending  |
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 26, 2019 10:43:33 GMT -6
It pays to heed those inner feelings known as intuition. They are so often right.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 26, 2019 10:49:49 GMT -6
#20
Gorgeous 19 year old girl I worked with. We had been a little flirtatious with each other but were just close work friends. I was under 25 (m)
She got knocked up by a guy she wasn’t dating seriously. She was opposed to abortion so was planning to keep the baby but wanted to end it with that guy
She took me aside and slowly and seriously proposed marriage with me. Her rationale being that we loved each other even though we were just friends and that I would be a wonderful father, so we should give it a shot.
She was sincere, but seeing as her proposal was insane (though oddly tempting) I said no
She married the father of her child shortly after. They’re still married, going on 20 years now. Only one child
So I suppose I said no because I was a young man and that wasn’t my child. I do wonder what would have happened if I’d said yes... but that would have been insane... right? ~
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 26, 2019 10:53:28 GMT -6
In my opinion, RIGHT!!
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 27, 2019 5:24:56 GMT -6
Yes insane!
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 27, 2019 8:27:02 GMT -6
#21
It was our first date. He showed up drunk and called me somebody else's name
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 27, 2019 8:27:45 GMT -6
Whoa!! That's a big NO!!
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 28, 2019 5:32:46 GMT -6
Oops! The worst possible first impression.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 28, 2019 8:55:45 GMT -6
#22
I was going through post-partum depression and I had no support system to speak of. I was a teenager and my mom just kept repeatingly telling me to give my son up for adoption because no one would ever want me and you're nothing without a man. That being said, there was one meathead jock who had been asking me out for years that I always turned down because we had nothing in common. We had never even had a conversation before yet he would religiously ask me out for almost every dance and Valentine's. Well that Valentine's when he asked me out again, I just gave up and said yes. We dated for a year, the whole time him telling me he had always admired me from afar, loved my creativity and individuality; but also telling me to stop dying my hair and grow it out, to get manicures and wear make-up, to lose weight and wear designer clothing.
After a year, he proposed. We were 19 and he said he was ready to start a family with me. That we would perfect and our kids would be perfect. It was like I snapped out of a fog. I realized that if I married him I would be unhappy for the rest of my life. So we broke up. A year later I met the man that I did eventually marry. ~
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 29, 2019 5:19:35 GMT -6
Smart girl and another happy ending.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 29, 2019 7:34:25 GMT -6
I agree.
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Post by QueenFoxy on May 29, 2019 7:38:38 GMT -6
#23
I met him at an art opening, he flew back to his home state a couple days later. We spent a month talking on the phone every day, and he asked me to come with him to Italy while he produced some paintings for a patrons new villa. I started getting everything together to renew my passport and prepare for the trip. He told me he was going to propose to me in Italy. I told him this was too much for me and I wasn’t feeling like we were on the same level in the relationship. He lost it, called me 50 times through the night, but after the first time I didn’t answer anymore. A few years later I found out he had gone to prison- statutory rape of one of his art students. ~ |
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Post by lostineternity99 on May 30, 2019 5:15:46 GMT -6
She had a narrow escape wow.
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